One thing I have noticed about
people and it is very true of myself is that we never seem to be happy with
what we have got, we always seem to compare ourselves to others.
As a child we compare ourselves to
our friends - thinking they have it better than us – better toys, better and
later bedtimes, better holidays etc.
As a teenager we compare grades with
our friends, or compare how we look compared to others, especially the popular
girls! - we think people are smarter
than us, better looking than us, have better clothes than us, live in bigger
houses than us etc
We compare ourselves to models or
TV actresses/actors, seeing them as skinnier than us and more beautiful - and
this comparison is not good and can be harmful especially as it can lead to
eating disorders etc
No comparison we make as a child
or as a teenager is healthy – but they never stop there, comparisons continue
as we continue our life journey. At
university/college we continue the comparisons, again comparing grades,
clothes, lifestyle, our backgrounds e.g where we come from which leads to oh my
city is better than yours, or if you were me leading to poor Irish jokes and
silly questions about growing up in Northern Ireland.
Moving onto adult life, you would
think we would get better at this and be mature and not compare ourselves to
others, but I think it gets worse. We compare:
- Our weight against others
- What we wear
- What jobs we have
- The houses we live in
- Our bank balances
And if you have kids, then we
compare our kids – my kids are much better behaved than yours etc etc.
Comparisons are not healthy but
we do it every day. I do. I sit and compare myself to others, thinking that
girl is much more beautiful than me, she is happier than me because he has a
husband, she has more to give than me, she has more money than me etc etc. It’s
not healthy and can lead to depressing thoughts. It’s not healthy because we are also denying
ourselves to be the person we were created to be – because my constantly
comparing ourselves to others it is showing that we are not happy or content
with who we are or what we have got. And we should be.
As a Christian the worst thing we
can do is compare ourselves to others in terms of our faith and our
relationship with God e.g saying things like she prays better than me, or their
views of the Bible aren’t the same as what I believe, or my church is better
than her church. Again it is unhealthy to do this and it is wrong as no one is
better than anyone else – we are all made equal in Christ and we were all made
to be different as well – if we were all the same the world would be a very
boring place! We have all been designed to be unique and our individual
journeys have been carved out to suit who we are.
When you compare yourself to
another person, you always lose, and at the same time the other person loses
too. Each of us has been created by the hands of a Holy God, we are all
fearfully and wonderfully made and our stories and the twists and turns of our
lives, the things that are hard for us, and the things that come naturally to
us, are as unique to us as our own fingerprints are.
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